If you ask me, the most crucial factor is the unwillingness to change. The refusal to pay more to women, even when they don’t ask for a pay raise! To maximize the profits? It shouldn’t be about women not being able to negotiate their fees well enough. Why would a man with the same position, education, and expertise earn more than a woman? How can we continue to explain this in the current age and time? Is it about “the survival of the fittest”? The people who position themselves as the best” will get paid the most.
Survival is Masculine
Survival is masculine; it does not resonate with the feminine woman. There is no fun and joy in surviving. There is only suffering if you ask me.
But hey… I was on the other side. I was a masculine woman, and at the time, survival was about; overcoming obstacles and hurdles and facing challenges and overcoming them. I needed them to make me feel good. I even created a business around it. An outdoor and survival business.
I now see that this was a poor state of being. There is only joy after overcoming the challenge. While overcoming the obstacle, there is suffering. However, I did not perceive it that way.
It should not be about women taking on masculine traits, such as negotiating their fees, positioning themselves, and selling themselves.
She knows her value and does not want to showcase it around. She does what she is supposed to do, serving! Doing her work in the best way possible, not needing the credits for it. Which is feminine.
We all have masculine AND feminine characteristics and traits
For the record, men and women can be masculine or feminine and/or have masculine and feminine traits.
Dear men, I love you for who you are and what you have achieved for humanity. You did what you are good at, and it has served tremendously. You have created the framework for how businesses are being operated, and yes, that is a masculine way. Makes total sense to me.
But….. nowadays, more and more women have higher positions. It is time that the system shifts from very masculine to more balanced and embracing feminine traits, such as equity and equality.
What doesn’t work for the feminine woman is to ask her to learn traits that work for men.
Women should not have to become masculine to be successful
Although they will work for the masculine woman. Like I once used to be.
I was a woman that thought about other women, “Well, I made it; why can’t you”?
- I was not aware that I had a very masculine upbringing.
- I was not aware that I was a masculine woman.
- I was unaware of how much I had fought to achieve things because that was my way of being.
It was who I was at the time.
How long will we accept that women in the same positions as men aren’t getting paid the same salary? Only because she doesn’t ask for it?
How can companies that continue doing this look themselves in the eyes any longer?