My team finds these questions for me to write about, and sometimes I think about how this relates to leadership or entrepreneurship. Yet there is always an angle.
The correct answer here would probably be into brains.
I have learned, though, that asking either or question is a sign of scarcity thinking. It is thinking in lack instead of thinking in abundance.
It is the same sort of question as: would you rather be healthy and poor or sick and rich?
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Why limit ourselves to having to choose? Why not believe we can have it all?
I know where it is coming from in my country. It is our Calvinistic nature, and Dutch people are proud of it. Well, I’m not. I believe it is limited thinking.
So if you ask me the question, do you rather have brains or looks?
I go for both.
At birthday parties, I discuss this with single women, and they all say it is more important that he has a good character. Well, for me, looks are also important.
Why should I have to accept a man who is overweight? Who does not respect his body or appearance?
Why can men hang out with younger women, and women can’t?
All these beliefs. I like to challenge them.
Whenever you think in scarcity, you (subconsciously) create precisely that.
I see personal leadership when I see people who have healthy bodies and dress well. And NO, of course, it is not ONLY about how you look. But appearance is part of how people perceive you, so why not use this to your advantage when you have a leading position?
Personal leadership comes before leadership.
- The relationships with yourself and others
- Your health
- Your wealth
- Your career
- Your mission
All these areas are essential to work on. Being a charismatic leader is much more difficult when your personal life is not in order.